Bullies And #SchoolWeeds
Updated: Apr 26, 2019
Hello Gardeners! Thanks for joining us today - in many of our #HelloGardeners episodes, we get emails from fellow gardeners about dealing with bullies and mean friends. While it might be easy for us to think of those kids as being “bad kids”, as gardeners we need to recognize that EVERYONE has weeds. Maybe these gardeners are being mean to us because they have a lot going on at home, or maybe they are being bullied themselves. Whatever it is, it’s important for us not to judge them because we don’t really know what’s going on.
So how do we deal with this? Well, it’s sort of a two-part process. #GardenerAnna & #GardenerAidan gave us some pretty good advice in Episode 3. If you are being bullied at school, you can always talk to your teacher - you can mention that you think something is going on with your friend and show concern for them. In Episode 5, we learned that sometimes it’s just about reminding ourselves that our friends have weeds too - we all get angry and sometimes it can come out in ways that can hurt other people. If your friend continues to hurt your feelings that’s a different issue, but if they apologize and show they care about you, we can be a good friend and forgive! Friendship is all about balance!
When it comes to bullies, remember that it is not okay for anyone to treat you disrespectfully, but we can always be there for a gardener in need. Let’s remember Episode 7, when Miss T talked about empathy. Think of bullies as gardeners with gardens full of weeds. It’s hard, but try to put yourself in their shoes and think about what weeds they might be dealing with. Be a friend when you can, stay true to yourself and your values, and don’t hesitate to ask for help with these kinds of situations. Parents and teachers are always willing to help, but we need to let them know what’s going on!
Take some time today to remind your friends and family members that you are always there to listen and support them. If you'd like to learn more about #SchoolWeeds, watch Episode 7 below!